How does a couple stay a “we” and not become a “you” and “me” after baby comes along? Read “How to Save Your Marriage from Parenthood,” by Amie M. Gordon, PhD, whose recent change in status to mommyhood may be part of the reason she’s conducting research on the impact of sleep on relationship quality.

Gordon offers five realistic suggestions that new or more seasoned parents can read in about five minutes and should find useful. Her tips include getting sleep, giving your spouse the benefit of the doubt (hint, have your significant other read it, too, so you both benefit), and more.